As one of the last-standing senders of snail mail (that's me in the photo, feeding my post card addiction), I'd like to take a minute to remember the lost art of letter writing. While e-mail is amazing in so many ways, there's a little something that's been lost with the good old-fashioned letter.
Don't get me wrong: I like e-mail. I use it every day. Okay, yes, several times a day. I use it for work. I use it for school. Just yesterday I got an e-mail with a link to a Russian friend's photos from a recent trip, an order confirmation for a new CD, a digital copy of my syllabus, and a confirmation of a meeting this afternoon. With e-mail, I can stay in contact with people from around the world instantly-- even thousands of miles from my physical address.
Forget a birthday? No problem-- you can now send "cards" on the day of and be right on time. For a lot of professional contacts or even professors at school, e-mail is the BEST form of contact. How often to you check your actual mailbox? Compare that to how often you check your e-mail.
As a writer, I can file stories for multiple sources from across the country-- sometimes even from a different country. I can send pictures. I can send links to interesting articles or important research material to people at school. And now matter where they are or where I am, they get it almost instantly.
But here's the thing: we don't take the same kind of time to connect with each other over e-mail as we do with mail in the physical form. From Paris I sent my dad paragraphs and paragraphs about how much I loved the city, what I ate, where I went, and asked him how he was in return.
I got back maybe three lines: "Glad you're having fun. Everything's fine here. Keep in touch. Love, Dad."
When I send a letter, the few that actually write back are more engaged. I feel like they've read what I've written more thoroughly (rather than skimming through on their way to the next item in their inbox) and send me a thoughtful response.
E-mail is amazing, but it's rarely personal. It encourages us to be in a hurry. So maybe next time you really want to catch up with someone, you should sit down and write a letter.